Jul 17

The Bravest Thing

Despite what people say, sometimes the bravest thing you can do is say, Enough is enough.

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The Bravest Thing

Despite what people say, sometimes the bravest thing you can do is say, Enough is enough.

Apr 16

Remembering Eden

CW: Suicide, grief Eight months ago we moved to a new house sitting on two half acres of wild and wooly plant life. Nature had been left to her own devices — and everything had devolved into a massive, tangled mess. I’m not sure what possessed me, but I got…

Suicide

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Apr 10

Dear Megachurches and Any Church Who Aspires to Be Like Hillsong/ Bethel…

JUST GO AHEAD AND CALL YOURSELF A FUCKING BUSINESS AND STOP CONFUSING EVERYONE ELSE AND YOURSELF. Then your shitty behavior will make sense, you can stop needing to justify your despicable actions, and other people won’t be surprised by what you do (not that they are anyway). Thanks for coming to my TEDx talk.

Church

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Dear Megachurches and Any Church Who Aspires to Be Like Hillsong/ Bethel…

Is it a rock concert or a church service? Who the hell knows anymore?

Thanks for coming to my TEDx talk.

Mar 24

Ministries Behaving Badly: DARVO and the Persecution Complex

I’ve had a suffocating week, digging through old emails in service to writing my upcoming memoir. I’ve had a chance to observe some of the inner workings of a ministry that caused a lot of emotional damage to me and mine (which I have written about in my other Medium…

Transformation Ministries

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Ministries Behaving Badly: DARVO and the Persecution Complex

Mar 22

Trauma: the English Ivy of the Psyche

About seven months ago I moved to a lovely old two-story Cape Cod situated on two half-acre yards filled with white oaks. …

English Ivy

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Feb 16

Face Hunger

There are certain people with whom I become mildly obsessed. I’m not sure if it’s a neurodivergent thing, or maybe an attachment-disordered thing. The fact is that I notice certain faces and voices. It’s not every face or every voice, but when it’s one of those faces or voices, it…

Face Hunger

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Jan 14

Writing Prompt: Instigate

From a writing prompt, the prompt was simply the word “instigate.” One year in high school, the school lowered the temperature in the building to some obnoxiously chilly level. Teachers were skulking around, muttering. Students were wearing their winter coats all day instead of leaving them in their lockers. …

High School

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Dec 15, 2021

The Mother Wound

This is an excerpt from my memoir, which is currently a work in progress. CW: abuse, neglect C.S. Lewis is famously (mis)quoted as saying, “I believe in Christ like I believe in the sun. Not because I can see it, but because by it, I can see everything else.” My…

Mother Wound

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Nov 22, 2021

The Problem with Faith-Based Approaches to Trauma

Note: I originally only posted this snippet from an online course I’m writing about supporting multiplicity, for the sake of sharing my thoughts with a friend, but realized perhaps it needs to be a stand-alone post. The original post below has been edited and updated. The Roots of Inner Healing Inner healing prayer ministry as…

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The Problem with Faith-Based Approaches to Trauma

Nov 22, 2021

The Cult of Christian Inner Healing Prayer Ministry

CW: spiritual and emotional abuse Conspirituality Episode 47 By now, unless you are new (in which case I’m not sure whether to say I’m sorry, or possibly sup, welcome to the shitshow), you’ve heard my story and the follow up post about my experience with “inner healing prayer ministry” administered by one Denise…

Inner Healing Prayer

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